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Dealing with Anger

A CHRISTIAN APPROACH TO DEALING WITH ANGER

1. Know and apply the dynamics of Agape Love

(1 Corinthians 13:4-8):

  • Let spiritual PATIENCE help you to keep from reacting to the effects of adrenaline in your system.
  • Practice spiritual KINDNESS by considering the other person's motives and needs, and guard the way (tone) you speak.
  • Practice spiritual INTEGRITY by striving to understand the truth and the real issues involved.
  • Seek spiritual ENDURANCE by taking the time and sensitivity to confront, problem-solve, and reconcile with the person for whom you are experiencing anger.
  • 2. Know the spiritual dynamics for dealing with anger as described

    in Ephesians 4:26-32 and apply them:

  • Confront your anger. Don't throw it at others, and don't let it fester within you. (4:26)
  • Avoid evil (sinful) language toward others (and about them) when angry. Never demean them. (4:29)
  • Use helpful and constructive language when confronting. Confront the issues, and do not attack the person. (4:29)
  • Let go of anger and its effects. Get it resolved. (4:31)
  • Practice Christian kindness when dealing with anger. (4:32)
  • Offer grace and practice forgiveness. (4:32)
  • 3. Develop and practice "Christian" confrontation and

    communication skills:

  • Talk alone with the person with whom you are angry (Matthew 18:15-16), and do not defame her/him to others (Ephesians 4:29).
  • Practice Agape Love when confronting another person (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).
  • 4. Seek to achieve reconciliation and resolution

    (2 Corinthians 5:17-19):

  • Strive to act out of your transformed "spiritual nature" seeking the help of Jesus (5:17). Overcome your sinful nature.
  • Strive for reconciliation, remembering that Christ has reconciled with you and forgiven you, even though you have sinned against Him and others (5:18-19).
  • Dr. Mike McKinney, Pastor

    September 2009