A CHRISTIAN APPROACH TO DEALING WITH ANGER
1. Know and apply the dynamics of Agape Love
(1 Corinthians 13:4-8):Let spiritual PATIENCE help you to keep from reacting to the effects of adrenaline in your system.Practice spiritual KINDNESS by considering the other person's motives and needs, and guard the way (tone) you speak.Practice spiritual INTEGRITY by striving to understand the truth and the real issues involved.Seek spiritual ENDURANCE by taking the time and sensitivity to confront, problem-solve, and reconcile with the person for whom you are experiencing anger.
2. Know the spiritual dynamics for dealing with anger as described
in Ephesians 4:26-32 and apply them:Confront your anger. Don't throw it at others, and don't let it fester within you. (4:26)Avoid evil (sinful) language toward others (and about them) when angry. Never demean them. (4:29)Use helpful and constructive language when confronting. Confront the issues, and do not attack the person. (4:29)Let go of anger and its effects. Get it resolved. (4:31)Practice Christian kindness when dealing with anger. (4:32)Offer grace and practice forgiveness. (4:32)
3. Develop and practice "Christian" confrontation and
communication skills:Talk alone with the person with whom you are angry (Matthew 18:15-16), and do not defame her/him to others (Ephesians 4:29).Practice Agape Love when confronting another person (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).
4. Seek to achieve reconciliation and resolution
(2 Corinthians 5:17-19):Strive to act out of your transformed "spiritual nature" seeking the help of Jesus (5:17). Overcome your sinful nature.Strive for reconciliation, remembering that Christ has reconciled with you and forgiven you, even though you have sinned against Him and others (5:18-19).
Dr. Mike McKinney, Pastor